She Took The Leap and Built Her Wings On The Way Down
"She took the leap and built her wings on the way down."
I came across this quote the other day and it reminded me of so many people I know, both men and women, who have embraced transitions in life with flexibility, bravery and grace. None of us escape this part of life. We will always be faced with change and choices. To me, the only way to fully embrace these transitions is to build our own wings.
It begins with how we look at change, or a transition, in general. We can think of it as uncomfortable ends followed by uncertainty. We can think of them as the way the Universe gives us lessons we need to learn and keep us on the paths that are best for us. I try to think of a transition, or a change that needs to occur, as a positive process to be trusted and an opportunity to begin again, a rebirth like the season of Spring.
It must be said that not all major life transitions are equal.
When accepting a new job we have to sever ties with former work colleagues with whom we have invested in professionally and personally and start over with new systems, protocols and personalities.
We may have transitions we have dreamed about such as becoming a parent or graduating from law school. We may have transitions that are our worst nightmare such as losing a parent or going from healthy to being diagnosed with a serious illness.
Some transitions we go through within ourselves and only we know about but still have to endure, such as caring what everyone thinks to not caring what anyone thinks. We may go from saying we believe in God to actually having faith. We may go from valuing only possessions to valuing only our health.
Emotional changes can be the hardest to adjust to. For example, when your heart gets broken, acceptance is not always an easy option. You may not have the strength or understanding to be objective. In cases like this you may need to process your feelings, and this can take time.
Change is actually constant, so we don't notice the little or expected changes. It's when we are caught off guard that we get a little overwhelmed. The key, I think, is to remember that it is only one of a million changes you that will happen in your life so do what you can to embrace and go with it.
The one thing I have learned as I've had to adapt to change and witnessed the transitions of others is that the attitude we bring and the actions we take that make all the difference. We have to take our own responsibility for how we deal with changes. We can't blame them on our mother, the ecology or the president. Like the quote says 'Build your own wings.'
This doesn't mean you have to deal with the changes in your life all by yourself. Friends, family, support groups and counselors are available but you have to be the one to reach out and ask. This could be hard but you can do it. Even if you need help to build your wings they will still be yours.
One more thing I know for sure is that change can be exhilarating and eye opening or it can be overwhelming and cause for unwanted stress. Regardless of that, we must all have the confidence to trust in ourselves and believe we will ultimately learn to fly.
It's wonderful to be able to gather friends and family together to celebrate the happiest of transitional times such as for a baby or wedding shower or to welcome a new neighbor to your town.
I put together a menu for what I would like to call "A Fresh Start Celebration."
You don't even have to have a reason to prepare this cheery, high energy fare. Any day would be perfect to start off with scrambled eggs laced with aromatic chives and crowned with sparkling beads of caviar, a fresh salad that stars the seasons best and a muffin sampler of of hearty fruit studded variations. Give your guests a choice of sweet, honey and cinnamon laced butter or citrusy lemon cream cheese to spread on muffins. Make lots of steaming, bracing Cafe au Lait. To get the party spirit flowing, have plenty of champagne on hand.
A Fresh Start Breakfast
Inspired by my new friend Russell:
Skip the store bought treats and have these healthy, yummy biscuits on hand for furry friends.
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